A reader asks: I am officiating my cousin's wedding next month and this is a particularly special one. It is going to be very intimate and relaxed - it's also really important as my cousin was actually diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer this year (fk cancer!) and it's really important to me to put together a really beautiful ceremony, but also one that is relaxed and casual just like their style! I was doing some research and wanted to find some nice ideas on how to include kids in the ceremony - they've both been married previously and are a blended family. I've mentioned how they can write special vows for their step children, or have a community vow - but i am very open to other ideas too - just nothing that is too 'traditional'. I've never performed such a small and intimate ceremony before so was wondering if you had any advice for me - also with these special circumstances, we want to keep this a really positive celebration of their relationship but just wondering if you both had any experience with someone going through this and if there was anything different they included - i absolutely know it really comes down to the individual couple and what they want to include but just interested to know how you would approach this.