We know it’s been a while, but welcome back to The Celebrant Talk Show! In this episode we’re responding to questions from you, our lovely listeners. Feel free to send us your questions by email to firstname.lastname@example.org, or even record yourself asking us your question and send us the audio file!
00:00 Josh’s travel story: Plan to be early!
0400 All BDM’s (not NSW) … finally onboard online with Marriage Equality
0455 QLD online system kicking it!
0615 NSW Online System: Buzzfeed article outs NSW Govt for not being ready for Marriage Equality Same sex couples are filling forms out by hand
10:20 Lifehack: How to get around NSW system upload issues
12:20 NSW BDM wastes $$$
FOLLOW UP ON CRM’s
14:55 Josh’s touches on Studio Ninja
15:35 Who CRM’s are designed for
16:45 Do you really need a CRM? What is the alternative?
19:40 Are they legal or not? The in’s and out’s
21:30 Josh clarifies: What we as Civil Celebrants can/ can’t do
24:20 How Josh does his Bali Destination Weddings
25:00 Don’t Overthink it – Australian laws irrelevant in Bali
26:25 Which date is the anniversary? Legal ceremony vs destination ceremony?
SCRIPTING THE COUPLES STORY
27:35 Jacqueline asks about scripting: Formula for the Couples Story
28:40 Sarah’s formula: What she loves, how she gathers info and delivery tips.
34:25 Josh’s Formula: Why he doesn’t tell the couples story.
40:05 Its the Mabo of the thing
42:00 Keeping the vibe
43:15 Personalization: Sarah’s favorite bits
VIBING THE CROWD
44:35 Andrea asks for tips in Public Speaking in Celebranting
45:20 Side bar: Words are less important than the Vibe
46:50 Tip 1: Rehearse Public speaking vs performance
47:40 Tip 2: Speaking ‘with’ not ‘at’ the crowd
49:45 Tip 3: Observe your peers vibe
53:00 Tip 4: Working it tough
55:50 Tip 5: Sometimes it is what it is
58:10 Tip 6: Giving permission
59:00 Tip 7: Popping Awesome: be authentic
60:04 Three Pre-Ceremony Things Josh does
1 Crowd participation
2 Relatable & safe
3 Be genuine
63:00 Creating the expectation of less than perfect (aka keeping it real!)
65:50 Its ok to be obvious!
65:40 Legal question: NOIM Biological Parents vs non-biological (step parents) and legal names. (Giving defective notice Section 104)
70:05 Documents required to confirm legal name change
73:00 Who can witness signatures on a NOIM?
74:40 Medical Practitioner (can witness NOIM) VS Allied Health Practitioner (can’t witness NOIM)
78:40 JP’s & the Police
81:00 Outro music